By Eric Beach
If you are reading this, and a human being like me, CONGRATULATIONS! You are valuable! You have value! If you can believe it, receive it, and live that truth, you my friend are on the path to living a full, but not easy life.
Personally its taken me many years to accept this to even understand its truth. But, to heal, we must at some point believe this truth.
Our value is not something anyone or anything can give us. Its something we can only give ourselves. Certainly others can help us see it, but its up to us to believe it. No relationship, no title, no accomplishment, no honor can give us value. Certainly we may become valuable to others, but if we don't believe we have value, all these other things and experiences will fade away in time. They are all temporary and fickle.
To invest, I mean really invest in your development... To have the strength to overcome set back after setback, disappointment after disappointment, and failure after failure, you must believe you are worth the continued effort, because the world will be quick to tell you, you are not.
When we don't believe we have intrinsic value, we settle. We believe the lie that we don't deserve better. We then believe we aren't worthy of love but are worthy of abuse. Or, we believe somebody owes us something...
If we don't value ourselves, we can begin to believe its someone else responsibility to save us, and when they don't, bitterness takes root in our hearts. In the event they are rescued, that joy only last for but a moment. All fixes are to the addict, temporary...
To accept yourself as valuable is to first accept where you are. I said accept, not stay. We exist on a continuum. We stay put, we regress, or we move forward. We, at any given time are doing one of these things. Constant forward progress can't be ascribed to equal success, growth, or value. At times we need to rest and at times we back pedal a bit. This is a reality we would do well to accept.
There is nothing about you or your situation that defines you as a person void of value. It's impossible. Nothing outside of yourself can define your value. But, if you believe you are enough, if you accept you have value, your perspective will begin to change.
You'll fight for things and people you value and in doing so, you will fight for yourself. You will make changes for things and people you value and in doing so, you will make changes that lead to your own Self improvement.
One of the greatest things we can do in this life is to find and break down the walls that keep us from valuing ourselves. We must destroy the signs in our mind that fill us with lies saying "You're not worthy because..."
When we do this, we become a positive force in this world. We pour out of ourselves waters from the stream of value running through our being and those closest to us can't help but notice and be touched by it.
Because I see my own value (not my pride) I am a better husband, father, and man. Because I know I have value, I will leave this world a better place even if nobody remembers my name.